This book is called First You, Then Him for a reason. I had it backward in thinking that finding the right relationship was the key to my happiness. It took me a really long, and I mean a really, really long time to acknowledge and fix my own problems. Finally, I understood that I was the common denominator that I brought into every relationship. It took another four painful years to figure out this one truth. If you aren’t healthy, then it is only a matter of time before even the best relationship crumbles.